Okay, this kind of blew my mind because it blind sided me. Didn't see this coming.
I had a conversation which went like this...
Me - "So sometimes do you feel intimidated by men in a discussion even when it's clear you're correct & he is not"
She - "Yes sometimes"
Me - "So its not easy debating some men then?"
She - "Yes it's hard sometimes"
And I don't know why I asked this, it just came out...
Me - "What about women with a similarly determined & opposing view is that any easier?"
She - " Sometimes, but mostly its even harder"
Me - "Any particular issues worse than others"
She - "No, only one that really gets ugly is anything feminism related, we can cop a sort of gender shaming thing. I know men can cop gender shaming in some man vs woman issues too but for us its a different variant, it's still guilt based but its elevated as if we're traitors. If I try to de-gender it and push for men & women to solve things it helps but it's not always possible. Can get a little icky
Mind Blown. Then it got bigger.
She - "So in your blogs, who replies or emails the most? Men or women & which blog got the most replies?"
Me - "I dunno, its mainly me venting my spleen. More people have contacted me than I expected, I'll go look. Does it make a difference?"
She - "Probably not, I was just curious"
Well then I was curious. I went and looked. The blog that got the second most emails, private messages or posts was the one on is Agriculture in Australia a hot bed of sexual harassment.
https://seriouslythinkforaminute.blogspot.com/2018/12/is-agriculture-serious-sexual.html
15:1 in favour of women. All supported the blog and were questioning how feminism had negative aspects that have pushed a negative pendulum into very unfair territory.
The blog with the most replies, emails or private messages to date was actually the one about the RSPCA & Live Export.
7:3 with Men in front. All but one in support of the blog but the one against said "despite those facts you are wrong"To put that in context though the Live export one sort of went mini viral for a while & has had (as I type) 27,106 views. The Sexual Harassment one hasn't been up any where near as long & has had 213 views.
Live export has had roughly 100 times more views but in actual plain numbers the Sexual Harassment has had nearly half the actual messages Live Export did.
So what does that mean?
I have no idea, something or nothing...more likely can't make any conclusion on the small numbers involved. Doesn't account for every person.
My only issue is whether or not women are hesitant to speak up because of men or because of men & women. For me it's not a gender issue where we have to pick a gender side.
To me any gender disadvantage is a Society Issue and we all, men & women need to fix something that is wrong, unfair or negative.
Perhaps best done by seriously thinking for a minute and (to steal from Ben Shapiro and others)...remember that its Facts not Feelings that must prevail. It should never be about power, empowerment or power shift. It should be about encouraging people to go for it, to grab the equal opportunity that most of us support & take for granted.
Stick with the facts, side with the facts. Simples.
Late Edit - Any blog to do with Rural Education seems really close to 50:50 but don't ask who use the strongest language. 100% were in favour of the blogs opposing cuts to rural education so I got something right ;-)
Haven't check all the others, as noted before, most of them were just me venting my spleen but staying fact based is essential.
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